Last week I received an email asking me to attend a farewell dinner for a work colleague. The email arrived on Tuesday for a Thursday night dinner and I immediately started wondering how I could reshuffle everything to attend. I had exams to mark and baking for Friday to complete, as well the usual household chores and Thursday being my usual yoga night. Could I swap this to that day? Could I potentially skip that? My brain was buzzing and suddenly a quiet little voice said
I was going to shuffle all these things that I’d already decided were a high priority to get done? With two days notice? And to be perfectly honest, for a person who hadn’t meant a heck of a lot to me? That seemed pretty warped. Examining it deeper, I realised that my fear was that I would look like I wasn’t a “team player” – that by not attending, I’d look like less of a good worker than the rest of the team. How did that serve me well at all?
I sent my apologies, saying that I couldn’t attend. I didn’t justify why, I said that I was unable to attend and left it at that. I know I’m a good worker and going to a dinner out doesn’t make me a great teacher (especially if I used that time to mark exams). The one thing that kept repeating in my mind was “You have to make yourself a priority” – in the infamous words of Dr. Phil, we teach people how to treat us. If I’m not willing to acknowledge that my life balance is important, why would anyone else acknowledge that it was important either?
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As usually happens, when I acknowledge it in my own life, I start seeing it elsewhere. Click through to read of a couple of other lovely ladies who have had the determination to put their foot down and put themselves first.
Are you treating yourself with the same importance and respect that you would like others to treat you? I’d love to know!